To all the men and boys out there...

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Are you a hard working man who can’t seem to relax and enjoy life as you wish?

At work are things  hectic and you’re always on your guard, as it is a quite a pressurised environment? You’re always pushing yourself more and more, yet it never seems enough. The danger of living such a stressful life, burn out or depression or anxiety or all of the above together. 

It is ok not to be ok. You don’t always have to have it all together at all times. So much pressure is put on men nowadays. This has highly impacted stress levels in the western men. There has never been a time where men’s suicide rates have been so high. Why is that? Because society expects you to ‘man up’, ‘be a man’, ‘men don’t cry and don’t express your emotions’. The truth is you are a human beings. You do cry, you do feel scared and sad the same as women do. And that’s ok

My name is Janine Cera and I help people to balance their careers with their personal lives. I successfully help people to clear their minds from all the shoulda-woulda-coulda and set their priorities straight based on their needs and wants. I do that using hypnosis and RTT (Rapid Transformational Therapy).

It is imperative you recharge your battery on a daily basis. How do you do that? Self-care… doesn’t sound too manly? Then call it recharging your batteries! (wink!)

How do you do that? Take care of your body, mind and soul. 

What do I mean by those? 

Well… to take good care of your body, you need to sleep well at night (make that a priority if it isn’t happening), eat healthy food, drink plenty of water, exercise and walk as much as you can.

Your mind also needs some TLC… stop multitasking… it is draining! Focus on one issue at a  time, declutter your phone, desktop and environment. Spend time with people you love, spend time with pets, do something for a greater cause than yourself. When we do something for someone else or a cause, we produce oxytocin. Oxytocin lowers cortisol, which is responsible for stress.

When oxytocin levels are boosted, so are serotonin and dopamine!(happy chemicals! Yippee!!) Generosity is a good thing for us, for others and the planet! It is a win-win-win! For a happier mind you can also declutter some of your toxic friends or family members or decide to give them your time for short periods, so they won’t drain you.

For the soul this depends very much on you and your core belief system. It doesn’t matter what you believe in, but we all understand that there is something out there that we can’t fully understand. Call it god, universe, energy, spirituality or science… we all believe in something greater than us. Meditate on a regular basis. Better yet, do it daily! It truly will help you to focus on the very present moment. Do you own a dog? Learn from him or her to detach from your worries… they live in the moment. They are happy here and now. Observe them and absorb their happiness and unconditional love for you! 

So… remember 

It is ok not to be ok. But it is not ok to isolate yourself. Reach out for help. Ask people you trust or professional help. You’re not alone!